Give 10 minutes if you are an indian....

Why is the media here so negative?

Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our

achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success

stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?

>We are the first in milk production .

>We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.

>We are the second largest producer of wheat.

>We are the second largest producer of rice.

>Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a

self-sustaining, self-driving unit.

>There are millions of such achievements

but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters. I

was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the

day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The

Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a

Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid

and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The

gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths,

were inside in the

newspaper, buried among other news.

In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime. Why are we so

NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign

things? We want foreign T. Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want f oreign

technology.

Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that

self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this

lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal

in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed

nation. Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance.

Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours.

YOU say that our government is inefficient.

YOU say that our laws are too old.

YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.

YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke,

The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.

YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.

YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?

Take a person on his way to Singapore .. Give him a name - YOURS. Give him a

face - YOURS. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International

best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in

the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay

$5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road

(equivalent of Mahim

Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking

lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or

a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity... In Singapore you

don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during

Ramadan, in Dubai .. YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered

in Jeddah . YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange

in London at 10 pounds ( Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD

calls are billed to someone else.'YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph

(88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop,

'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son.

Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell

anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New

Zealand .

Why

don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use

examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still

talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system

in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and

cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an

involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the

same here in India ?

Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay , Mr.

Tinaikar , had a point to make. 'Rich people's dogs are walked on the

streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,' he said. 'And

then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the

authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the

officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure

in his

bowels?

In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job.

Same in Japan .. Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to

the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.

We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do

everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the

government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all

over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper

and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms

but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.

We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and

toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.

This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to

the public. When it comes to

burning social issues like those related to

women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room

protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the

whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my

sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system?

What does a system consist of ? Very conveniently for us it consists of our

neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the

government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually

making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with

our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far

away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a

majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away.

Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their

glory and

praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to

England .. When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out

to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and

brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape

the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is

mortgaged to money.

Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great

deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too.... I am echoing J. F..

Kennedy 's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians.....

'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA

AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA

WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'

Lets do what India needs from us.

Forward this mail to each Indian for a change instead

of sending Jokes or

junk mails.

Thank you,

Dr. Abdul Kalaam

EverySuccess Story is a Story of Great Failure .. :)

This Was A Man :-
- Failed in Business at age of 21;
- Was Defeated in a Legislative race at age 22;
- Failed again in Business at age 24;
- Overcame the Death of his sweetheart at age 26;
- had a nervous breakdown at age 27;
- lost a congressional race at age 34;
- lost a senatorial race at age 45;
- failed in an effort to became vice-president at age 47;
- lost a senatorial race at age 49 ; and
= = Was elected president of United States at age 52..

This Man Was -- Abraham Lincoln.

EverySuccess Story is a Story of Great Failure .. :)

- As a young cartoonist , Walt Disney faced many rejections from newspaper editors,
who said he had no talent. One day a minister at a church hired him to draw some cartoons ,
Disney was working out of a small mouse - infested sher near the church.
After seeing a small mouse, he was inspired . That was the start of Mickey Mouse

- Thomas Edison at age 12 leave school due to comment that he is dumb.
in age 67 lost his Factory worth a few million dollars , to fire.
It had very little insurance. No longer a young man,
Edison watched his lifetime effort go up in smoke and
said " There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burnt up.
Thank God we can start a new". In spite of disaster , three weeks later,
he invented the phonograph. = Whats an attitude

- We also know the story of Tamurlang.

{ from the book "you can win"- by Shiv Kheda
http://www.authorstream.com/Presentation/richapatel-270037-blue-print-success-shiv-khera-ppt-education-powerpoint/
}

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.

Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You’ll notice a huge difference in everything you do.

Let’s take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges — get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you can’t be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you’ll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.


Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn’t have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.
2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem: We’ll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.
3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn’t even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.
4. I am a miserable failure — I can’t seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you’ve accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It’s an incredibly positive feeling.
5. I’m going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I’m better than him. And there’s no way I’ll help him succeed — he might beat me.


Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can’t also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.
6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don’t let it hold you back. Don’t dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.
7. You can’t do anything right! Why can’t you be like ____ ?


Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we’d be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.
8. Your work frustrate. It’s super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem: I’ve actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let’s look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It’s also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog ****s, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That’s a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back


Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don’t let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.
10. I don’t think I can do this — I don’t have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you don’t think you can do something, you probably won’t. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you’ll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don’t need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

Original Document, Ref:- http://www.fropki.com/deadly-sins-negative-thinking-vt39691-10.html

मेरी कविता --"है गरीबी "
कहा खो गया मेरा बच्चपन ,
धुल से सने चेहरा दिखाये यह दरपण .
कभी ट्रेन में तो कभी सडको पे खडा में ,
दो पैसो के लिये तुमसे लड़ा भी में ,
कभी परियो के मीठे सपनो की ,
चादरे ओढ़ कर सोया में .
कभी तुम्हारी गालिया सुनकर ,
भूखे पेट जागा में .
जब आँखों में अंशु आये ,
मोती समाज छुपा लिया इन्हे ,
जब बासी रोटिया पाए ,
5 star का खाना समाज कर खा लिया इन्हे .
कल क्या पता , सपने वाली पारी का जादू चल जाये ,
टूट - ते तारे मेरी दुआ सुन्न जाये ,
और ,मेरा मुस्कराता बच्चपन फिर लौट आये .


posted by "Subhash Khaware --subhash_khaware@rediffmail.com"

Awake Arise And Walk Together

Today I was watching “ The comedy circus” TV serial . A cute girl of standard 2^nd was performing. Suddenly my mobile rang , there was a call and I went out to room. While talking I came out of my room and was walking in gallery. From there I saw three children, two girls, one of 10 yr, other of 6 yr and a boy of 5yr. They were performing street show. They were nomads. The girl of 6 was walking on road with bamboo tied by her legs.

You might be wondering that why the hell I am saying all this crap. Is this any new or a happening story? Alas this is not a story but a bitter truth. We all know it. Every day many of us see it. But very few of us really care for it. We love to see the daily TV serials and their so called reality show, by sticking our self to our couch in this chilly winter. Even we clap and wonder how come they can perform so nicely at such a tender age. But what a dichotomy is this, we dint even bother for those poor and deprived rolling out barely in this chilly winter. And adding to worse there came one old man in a thrashing manner. And started shouting on those kid. “What the hell are you doing here? Is this road belongs to your father? How dare you to create such nuisance. ” I was just shocked. How an old man could do so. A man who has seen so many facet of life, how could he react so rudely on those kids? In stead of sympathizing them with some money or goods, he was shouting on them.

We forget some time. We forget that this is the India of Bhagat Singh and Netaji. Those who laid their life, for the people of this country. And the worst of the fact is that, our country despite being free from past 62 years, has not yet been able to make it free from poverty. In fact we have become more self centric. We spend lavishly on throwing party. If we could just save few bucks from that party and distribute among the poor on the street or footpath. Many of them would not sleep empty stomach. If we contribute a little of our spare time to teach the underprivileged then many of them will learn to read and write. No one else is to blame for this. But we our self are responsible for this plight. Now it totally depends on our self to come on front foot and set up a new tradition.

Let us take a vow today. Not to blame any one else for our plight but shake our so that we can make our country a better place to live in.

Edited and Modified By - Mr. Ravi Raj

(ravirajsavarni@gmail.com)

everything Reality

Real ways of life ,, in this time

Six Ways To Make People Love You:-

1. 1. Don’t Criticize.

2. 2. Give Honest, Sincere Appreciation.

3. 3. Smile.

4. 4. Show Respect For The Other Person’s Opinions.

5. 5. Never Tell A Man He Is Wrong. (But Try To Go With Reality ).

6. 6. Create Happiness For Others.

Four Ways To Become Popular :-

1. 1. The Only Way To Get The Best Of An Argument Is To Avoid It.

2. 2. If You Are Wrong, Admit It Quickly And Emphatically.

3. 3. Let The Other Man Save His Face.

4. 4. Remember That Unjust Criticism Is Often A Disguised Compliment.

Four Ways To Do Things Successfully:-

1. 1. Ask Question Instead Of Giving Direct Orders.

2. 2. Co-Operate With The Inevitable.

3. 3. Put Enthusiasm Into Your Work.

4. 4. Do The Very Best You Can.

Four Ways To Be Happy In Life:-

1. 1. Fill Your Mind With Thoughts Of Peace, Courage, Health, Hope And Prayer.

2. 2. Count Your Blessings, Not Your Troubles.

3. 3. Keep Busy, Don’t Fuss About Trifles.

4. 4. Make The Other Person Happy About Doing The Thing You Suggest.

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